Determine Your Own Worth

"Let me tell you something you already know..." - Rocky Balboa

WORTH: usefulness or importance

If you're heart has been broken, chances are good that at some point in your life you let somebody convince you that you're not worth much, and that your life has little value, if any at all. If you want things to change, it's time to turn that thinking around.

Stop giving away to others the power to determine the value of your life. You want to know what you're worth? Dare to find out for yourself, then take a bigger step: dare to express your worth, knowing that others will be standing close by, doing their best to knock you down a peg or two for the sake of getting you to settle for less...just like they did.

Dare to stand tall against all the slings, all the arrows, and all the bricks of doubt and criticism they throw at you, safe in the knowledge that no one else has the power to decide for you what your value in life is to be, what your purpose in life is, that purpose which has been given to you alone to express. That power has been given to you, and you alone.

"Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great." - Mark Twain

If you really want your broken heart to heal, it's time you decided to start being YOU again. Stop letting people talk you into believing you are the way they see you, that you're a nobody unless you agree with the meager value they have placed upon your existence. People may abandon you in your quest for significance as you seek to establish your worth...GOOD. Let 'em leave. They weren't much help to you anyway, doing their best to keep you down, hold you back at every turn.

In fact, let's up the ante a bit: instead of waiting for them to abandon you, walk away from them first. Don't give them the chance to break your heart any more than they already have. Kick 'em to the curb. Reject the rejection, doubt the doubts, and vote Nay to all the naysayers. Drop the dead weight that plagues your life. Check all the baggage (i.e. drama) at the counter. Empty the trash from your heart that has been weighing you down, in some cases for many years. 

Break the mold in which others have tried to cast you, and forge your own identity. Do this and you'll not only have established your own value, but you will have regained a measure of your identity, your integrity, your dignity and self-respect. Don't worry that you'll be alone for the rest of your life when you ditch the losers, because as you empty your heart of all the trash, you make room for more treasure; the people who are meant to be part of your life's journey, the ones who will stand by your side and help you to stand tall, just as you in turn help them to do the same.

If indeed it is true that you don't attract who you want but rather who you are, then it is best for you not to wait for others to like or approve of you before you allow yourself to be seen as worthy of respect, as being valuable to others. Start liking yourself first. Give yourself approval to be yourself, just as you are. You'll be surprised to learn that as you do, others will follow suit.  Once you allow this to happen in your life, your heart will heal to such an extent that you may forget it ever hurt.

It's time to stop being them, and start being YOU.  This world needs more people like you, just as you are, right here, right now, and less people like them: bitter, cynical, victims of circumstance, usually by their own design rather than that determined by others. Let the rest of the world play it safe, let the rest sell themselves short, let others downsize their value in life...but not you.

Dare to determine your value, seek to establish your worth, launch out to find the station in life that shows others the uniqueness of the wonder called Y-O-U.

The journey without...begins within.  Find out who you are, dare to open your heart, and let the real you flow from the inside out, just like a river.
                                   

Maybe it starts as a trickle, a small stream, a babbling brook. Does not matter. As long as it's you, it's true. Don't try to be good enough for others, be good enough for you.  Don't worry about where the path leads, just be willing to take the first step, then the next, then the next, and let it unfold before your eyes.

Take the first step. Dare to determine your own worth, your own value. Do it for you, not for them. Should you ever second guess yourself, or wonder if you're just wasting your time, remember that you are just as wonderful, and just as valuable, as anyone else on this planet:

"For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." 
- Psalm 139: 13,14 NKJV

To your health...to your heart... Until next time,

Be blessed, not stressed...  Bye now!