The Surest Way To A Broken Heart

The surest way to a broken heart is to try to gain the approval of others, to try to please everybody, to try to make everyone like you. This is a fallacy, it is impossible.  

Reality check: everybody is not going to like, everybody is not going to agree with you, and you will not see eye to eye with everyone you meet...DEAL WITH IT!

Are you so needy and clingy that you everybody must think well of you before you can feel good about yourself? That is a terrible way to live. It is just plain insane.  It is just as insane for you to believe that you can live your life in such a way that no one will talk about you, good or bad. I learned early in life that there are three days when people will talk about you...

The day you're born

The day you die, and...

Every day in between

To think you can make people stop talking about you or criticizing you, is as much a fallacy as it is a fantasy. The real question is this: why does their opinion matter so much to you? Why do you allow others to hold so much power over your self image?

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

It is often said that when you forgive others, you open prison doors, only to discover the one imprisoned was you. I believe the same is true when you release yourself from dependency on others to build your self-image. You soon realize you were the one in bondage to their opinions. What's more, when you create your own self-worth, you discover you were holding yourself hostage, demanding that someone else pay the ransom to set you free, when the purse strings were in your hand all along.

So do yourself a favor. Get off at Heartbreak Highway's next exit. Stop depending on others, take responsibility instead for building your own self-esteem. Put together your own winning self-image. Don't leave in the hands of others the ability to create a life of your own accord that lines up best with your goals and dreams.

Don't be afraid or dismayed by what others say or think about you. No matter what good you do, or how much you try your best to make a positive impact for others, someone will seek fault in you. Take the high road, go your own way, and fail to see how their disapproval of you should ever become your problem.

Let not your heart be troubled, but let it instead be healed...

And as your heart heals, be blessed not stressed...